Porn helps, a great deal, in allowing me a way to get aroused in order to get into the act of sex with my partners when I have a dominant attraction to the sex opposite that of my partners. The only time this doesn't work is when I enter into "asexual" mode. I have no attraction to anyone or anything. I tend to go out more and get huge quantities of work done, exercise more, improve my life in many ways, and I enjoy these times a great deal, they make me feel truly happy. I don't feel like having sex nor do I particularly want to, my life is simple and straightforward. This lasts about a week two or three times a year.
I can't explain these times to my partners easily enough, they just know I am not interested in doing much with them, I still often humor them by being a dom and utilize my toy collection, but it all feels sterile to me and I don't involve my body much beyond kissing and touching. These periods of asexuality upset my partners to no end, I am not attracted to them, I love them and feel emotional connections with them but I can't be aroused by them or anything else but I am willing to give them satisfaction during these times just that I can't get aroused.
Which leads to the question: "Is it ethical to have sexual relations with someone when you are not attracted to them at the time?"
My girlfriend doesn't believe it is ethical like it is something along the lines of a faked orgasm. I do, if I can please my partners without penetration then I don't see the issue, I still derive a huge amount of pleasure from the experience. Where do we draw the line?
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